Talking Positive...

Talking positive to kids…

This is what I believed from the time when I started thinking of bringing up kids.

But v shd set the limits n off the bounds also..
But I shd also confess that I have scolded Yuvan too many a times. when he really goes over the board or does something purposely even after understanding it!!!

But I should also agree.He has been a very very understanding Kid in more ways ..Talking really helps…with him..

SO now I have vowed myself that I shd make him understand more by talking a lot in to him…but off course the limits will b there n I will let him know abt it too..and there will b teaching him the hard way too at times when he really needs it!!!Confusing?
But..Thats what I m..!!!!he he he he
But I hope I’m trying to b a good parent!!!
Neither falling in..”always no”…”always yes” (As my blogger friend Angel had sd..neither in any of the categories.!!! YES …me too)

Coming to talking to positive kids. I believe n understand n practice ( now a lot of talking goin on with yuvan...)it many a times..( trying to make the "many a times" to most of the times")
For eg…It makes a lot of difference when u say “Yuvan…Its hard. Try to open it safely….be careful”(on a door/fridge…whatever) than saying “Yuvan..Noooooo..Dont do it!!!its heavy..” Also,even if they get a pinch of pain but nothing serious itz ok..they do realize it n do it more careful next time…as I have agreed with Angel on experience talks more than 1000 warnings..
When we know our kids are growing up as more understanding kids,v feel more relaxed,more confident,more on control ....talking helps more but setting limits n off bounds need to there as well..

Whenever Yuv tries to bang his indoor scooter/cycle, a little harder by pulling it up n then on to the floor. First I told him..”no u cant do it..”he kept doing it. Then I tried other way. Since he likes babies a lot…I told him.."Yuvan u know rt that there’s a baby rt below our house??? if u bang like this baby can’t sleep n u are disturbing others..as well in the process u will fall backwards n hurt yourself..”(demonstrating how he wd fall..)

Now he seldom does it..when he does it..before I react he will tell me “ amma..baby..n then shows action for sleeping..” meaning baby is sleeping..n then rides properly…then I say.."pls Yuvan pl u are not supposed do it!!!..as it gonna hurt u as well others"

This is one eg..i hope it happens with all kids…But I do agree..there is a time when they really start understanding. it differs from every Kid!!!

But sure shot Try IT..it works wonders many a times...BUt m not saying that there shd be no Limits set nor any hard way lessons learned thingi..but try talking in to them a lot!!!they grow up more understanding..loving n they do things by simple n proper understanding rather than for the fear of getting scoldings from Mum/Dad

As therez always a thing that shd be in every parent's mindset “ Do not compare Kids. Every Kid is an Individual”

Scare Continues......

Mmmmmm...My scare continues...

Called up the teacher on wednesday...she told me the attendance was "ZERO" on wednesday's Yuv's batch..so the 8 kids who came on Monday slowly went to zero by wednesday...dont know whether any of them Contracted HFMD..or at home Like Yuv coz of Mothers like me...!!!

So i decided to hold back Yuv till Monday!!!

And the HFMD cases are up by 12% compared to last week ending Apr 12!!! says Health Ministry ,Singapore....

So wat else i can do?Keep Clean yuv's hand..foot n his daily baths have risen from 3- 4 times (normally- morning,back from school,evening hand,foot face wash,back from play,before going to bed!) to 5- 6 times...

I Hope n pray that Yuvan passes thru this without contracting it!!!

Scare!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!????

Scare!!!???

Yuvan 's PlaySchool was closed for three days from last Thursday!!n then i sent him in half hearted on Monday..n teacher told me..""all fumigated" one new case yesterday..but she had been to school from Wednesday..so fumigation is effective.. u can send him today!!! "so total attendance was 8/15..two parents came back n took the kids home 30mts into the class...

wat is all about??? Its all on Hand Foot and Mouth Disease !!!

The whole last month i have been hearing from Yuv's playmates Mom's at the Playground,
that ITz in air..and they are worried..i was also given the pamphlet on symptoms..all those things at the playgroup..1 week passed by.....then... on last Thursday..went to leave Yuv
at school 5 mins late....(we were already getting late...rt down at first floor in lift..Yuv said he wants to do potty....i sd ok...n took him back home..then he tried..no luck...rushed him to school")..,i saw all kids n parents standing outside..teacher was telling that One of the kids in Yuv's batch had got it n so how?so none of us want to send them..then school was also closed for three days as per regulation...

fumigated n opened on Monday..Then it was all happened what u read in the beginning!!!

When i picked Yuv up..teacher sd" one kid couldn't eat.. so watch out" - to the parent!!!
So i was so confused whether to send Yuvan the next day( ie today )or not?

But ultimately My confusion won!! called up the teacher n told her that m holding back Yuv for two days!!!she too told me.."OK..will update u tomo evening!!!"

What i donn want is (I hope Yuv wont get it) for him to get this mildly also which may have an impact on him!!!!on everything..physically...his talking skills...and what pain these kiddos will go thru!!
i dunno..m worried!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I Hope Yuv doesn't get it n Pray that all Kids get well soon!!!!

My Childhood frens!!!!!!!!!!!

Childhood frens???
I have always been with frens rt from my young..but whomsoever i had been taken true..i still have them in my life!!!!!!!M happy abt it!!Blessed M!!
here i go..

Thinking abt mine..
My first ever fren n still she is my good fren~~Priya~~is my cousin who is 2 years elder to me..though v dont speak over the phone very often ,v do catch up once inva while in a big long overseas call!!!else thru emails..but still whenever v meet (since the time i started living in SG,its been once a year or to be precise whenever i go to India)..its a feeling that only v both can fel n v love being together..fun times...But i know v have a spl bond!!! which v both knew n cannot be explained..rT?But Its more of understanding i will say!!! V have a mutual respect for each other bonded with love and understanding!!!!i Simply cherish her!!ANd to add as a cherry on the cake..she was my Best woman at my wedding...Was there during my baby shower..visited me at the hospital the same day when Yuvan was born and she spent solid 3 hrs with me until it was 10pm...She adores Yuvan!!

Then..~~Viji~~My first ever fren at school when i was in Standard 1,ie when i was abt 4.5 years old...then the legacy continued until she got married...!!!!v studied together from 1-5 standards,11th,12th..then v were at difft colleges..then she got married...v totally lost tuch after that..now after 4 years v are back in tuch..regularly!!!!!!! waw.... wat a feeling!!!!!!!!!!!

Then her Younger sister ~~ Latha~~ also my notable Childhood fren..still in tuch!!

After this...Until i was in my Std 8,i never had any close frens..then came MY True Best Friend i shd say ~~Akhila~~...v were like...........i jus cant say it with words!!Until now the legacy continues though v were a bit off in the middle for few years...now v are back on the track...like we were 14 years back!!!!!!!!!!!!!!wowwwwwwww..Kudoos to u My dear Fren Akhila!!M happy to have u in my life!!(again!!)

Only they three can b classified as my childhood frens..though i have alot of memories...
And m really happy n proud that i still have them in my life!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!n will have until my last breath!
rest of all comes under close frens after My age of 16...?that means i shd blog under a difft topic rt?

SO will b Contd!!!!

Yuv's Early Childhood Frens..How abt Mine?

Yuvan has a very close fren for his age by name SAm..he is his playgroup classmate!!!now they play together every evening almost!!Sam comes to our placee..spends a day..Yuv goes there..stays for a day!!wow..

And whoever goes first to school first will wait until the next one comes n then they go together!!hugs..kisses on cheeks..cries when they depart..sometimes hugs n says byes while departing!!!shares everything...toys..bikes...snacks..and shared bathroom for bathinggg when Yuv had been there at Sam's place last week..(see pics)

He also has two good frens in Ashwin m karunya though he is so attached to Sam!!!Even the play group teacher knows this n she also makes fun n enjoys seeing them do things togther..they have started learning new words from each other!!n wat not???

M so happy for them...Thinking of them..now i have the feel to blog abt my first ever fren..childhood frens??but a lil later..cos tons to write..so let me cut it short now!!!
Kudoos Yuvan n Sam!!!
(To be continued...)

Fidel Castro!!!

F-I-D-E-L C-A-S-T-R-O!!!

One of the few "Dictators" quite a lot of people liked(forget abt US..for the record according to Cuban Intelligence ,The US tried to assassinate him 638 times...n all failed attempts!!)including his country men (n women ..??- i have always felt there shd b be a term called Country women or rather call in general Country-people???-do i sound very feminist???)

I Liked reading abt him a lot rather saying i liked him a lot!!( and all these info are compiled for what i read abt Castro thru various sites)

What tempted me to blog on Fidel Castro?The news that 81 year old Castro resigned after 5 decades of his rule as Cuban President (citing medical reasons)Successfully coming thru the economic embargo Imposed on Cuba until now..

But he did open 10,000 new schools, erasing illiteracy and building a universal health care system.

But liberties like right to strike by labour unions were taken away,independent newspapers were shut down and religious institutions harassed. Hundreds of thousands of Cubans have fled Castro's rule, many settling just across the Florida Straits in Miami.
But Still Cuba survived as a Socialist State which he declared on April 16,1961.

And i shd say he has Accomplished what he wanted for Cuba,being born n brought up in a rich family amid poverty surrounding most of the Cuban Families in twenties''
He went on to Study Law at the University of Havana n offered free legal services For the poor ..n then he was involved as one of the 150 warriors in Throwing out Batista...But the attempt resulted in a failure..then he as tried and jailed for 15 years..then he came out on amnesty after serving jus two years!!

Then he went to Mexico..as he had planned to train n group his men to throw Batista out of power.He met "Che" Guevara.. ,( My another admiration - reading abt him..will blog a lil later..may b next??)from where there was no turning back.. very interestingly he is not only a revolutionary icon but also a President who was always linked to some or the other controversies!

To cite a few..

1.I have read that he used to open up the borders to let Cuban people cross over the waters mostly to Florida..like in 1980 he let 125,000 people flee to Florida by boat through the Mariel port, west of Havana,when Soviet Union split n sent Cuban economy in to bad shape he again opened up the Borders!

2. He also ran a rough run with the Catholic church until recently in 1998 Castro Invited Pope John Paul II to Cuba..

3.In 1999, Castro launched an anti-U.S. campaign for the return of Elian Gonzalez, a six-year-old Cuban boy rescued at sea after surviving a shipwreck that killed his mother. Gonzalez then returned to Cuba in 2000 after his father flew to the U.S. to claim his son.
so But I have always have had an admiration for this Cuban President who smoked cigars in public,had 8 children with four women!!

Resource for Reading: http://biography.com/

Fidel's Letter of Resignation

http://www.cnn.com/2008/WORLD/americas/02/19/castro.letter/?iref=mpstoryview

All ABOUT Castro

http://history1900s.about.com/od/fidelcastro/Fidel_Castro.htm